Forgiveness and Feminism

I was told at any number of occasions that love is more powerful than hatred. I did not quite understand the meaning of this until now.

In addressing the bullying issue I finally found the meaning of this. As a result of working through the memories of having been bullied in school, I have been able to forgive a long-time enemy: the 90s feminists. These were brainy unattractive women who had been treated badly in school; and in feminism they found identity, power and meaning.

They were wrong to attack attractive women; they were wrong to attack men who were attracted to attractive women. In attacking family and child-rearing, they were dead wrong. But understanding where they come from gives me a much better perspective, and one more precise. Now it is possible to deal with them as human beings rather than as a mortal enemy, and hopefully guide them to a better place.

A woman on the Internet once wrote that her daughter had been bullied in school by another child; and, once she got over it, she wanted to help that person. I congratulated her on raising a child with a good heart. A Buddhist meditation instructs the reader to “forgive other people's verbal abuse by understanding it as expression of their mental anguish.” Clearly the actions of these feminists are an expression of their mental anguish. So I am being called upon to forgive them and, just maybe, show them a better way.

Ultimately a brainy, unattractive woman would probably do better for herself by becoming an engineer or a scientist than by becoming a feminist. There is more room for engineers than there is for feminists, and it pays a lot better. But if these people are understood, the society benefits as a whole; and then the need for aggressive feminism is reduced. Which also reduces the burden on attractive women and men who like them.

So yes, love can in fact be more powerful than hatred. And I hope that more people can have similar realizations and act accordingly.