"Everyone Shits"

One saying I've heard from people who've been around the block a few times is, “Everyone shits.”

That most certainly is the case. However it doesn't mean that that is the only thing that they do.

People do all sorts of things, both good and bad. Yes, everyone shits; but everyone is not limited to shit production. People do both good things and bad things; and the fact that some people do things that are wrong does not disqualify them – or others – from doing things that are right.

Yes, I shit. I also produce good poetry and useful thought on a range of subjects. Yes, Lillian shits. She is also very beautiful, intelligent and kind. Yes, my former wife shits. She has also done some excellent work by way of fighting domestic violence. That someone shits does not mean that they are shit or that shit is the only thing that they do.

One of the worst behaviors that I have seen has been equating people with the worst thing they've ever done. Supposedly because they did they are bad people. Yet many of these people have also done very good things as well. A fair appraisal of a person would not see in her the worst that she has ever done. It would be to see in her also the good things that she has done.

An argument against romanticism has been, Well how can you have such feelings for someone who shits? Once again, the fact that they shit does not mean that that is the only thing that they do. I have seen magnificent qualities in all sorts of people. These qualities deserve to be recognized and acknowledged. And then not only are they free to do for the world what the world needs for them to do, but you also get to enjoy the benefits of what such a person has to offer.

To hell with perfectionism and anything of the sort. Instead see the good in the other person. Allow the person to be good, and you and her will have a wonderful relationship. She does not have to be perfect to be good; she has to be good to be good. And many such women are just that.