Sunday, December 31, 2017
There have been some participants in
the economy that have been adequately championed. Adam Smith
championed the businessman; Karl Marx championed the worker; and the
lesser-known Thorstein Veblen championed the engineer. But there
have been other major participants in the economy that have not been
adequately championed. These include:
The scientist;
The teacher;
The military;
The police;
The priest;
And the artist.
Most of what business sells is
technology, and technology comes from science. There have been many
places that had the market system, and most of them were poor. The
reason that we are more wealthy than Medieval Europe or Tsarist
Russia is technology; and technology comes from science.
Even the most anti-intellectual
American drives a truck that comes from science; has TV and telephone
that come from science; and uses such things as air conditioning and
boom boxes that come from science. Scientists are at the root of most
of what business sells. The scientist is not adequately compensated
for the work that he does; the businessman gets more than his fair
share.
Another significant contributor to the
economy is the teacher. The teacher educates both the businessman and
the worker. Without the teacher most people would be unemployable.
Many teachers are regarded as losers; however without them the
businessman would not have the knowledge that he needs to do his job,
and most workers would be unemployable.
Still another major contributor is the
military. The importance of the military was found out by Bertrand
Aristide, who disbanded the military only to be out of a job when
some drug runners got hold of major guns. There have been many
situations in which a poorer population conquered a wealthier
population. Both Russia and China had much more money than Genghis
Khan, but Genghis Khan conquered both populations because he was a
military genius who assembled an excellent army. America's solution
to this problem – to have effective military hardware – is a
correct one; and I completely endorse Reagan's doctrine of peace
through strength and hope that the present administration continues
this doctrine.
Also important is the police. The
police enforces property rights. Without property rights enforcement
economic activity would be impossible. Everything that people produce
would be pilfered, and the population would be plunged into poverty.
This happened in Russia in 1990s, when the police was incompetent and
the place was overrun by gangs. This continues to happen in the
American inner city, where law enforcement does not know what it is
doing and the conditions are so violent that no business would set up
shop there. Police is required for enforcement of property rights,
and without the police everyone would be very poor.
I have also not heard enough said in
defense of the priest and the artist. The priest is important because
he teaches people moral principles, which are necessary for economic
activity to take place. As for the artist, he is a visionary whose
inspiration anticipates much of what people figure out later with
their minds. Much of what we have now was anticipated by artistic
inspiration; and while most artists don't make very much money other
people make tons of money out of implementing their visions.
Most of the above don't make very much
money. However their contributions to prosperity are vast. A
scientist or a teacher does not earn a lot of money; and many of
these and others, being driven by the ideal of service, do not mind
that state of affairs. Where they do revolt – rightfully – is
when people decide that their work is worthless or that they are
losers or irresponsible or anything of the sort even as they are
benefiting from the work that they do. When they rail against and
defund science while benefiting from science. When they ride around
in trucks that science made possible with signs that say “My son
beat up your honor students.” When they go around disrespecting the
military while benefiting from its defense of their lives and
property, or when they tell a police officer “fuck you pig.”
Do I have personal reasons for saying
this? I most certainly do. I was planning an academic career; but
when I was at the university the academia was being defunded, and
prospects for an academic career were scant. I went into the computer
industry, and after that crashed I was under-employed. Probably the only good thing that came from that was me becoming acquainted with perspectives of people whose perspectives I otherwise would have never considered and gaining in compassion for other people. If I am to put
in the kind of effort that is needed to get a PhD or anything of the
sort, I have to know that the field will be there.
So it is time that more people
acknowledge these unsung heroes of economics. And it is time that
more of such people be treated with respect.
Saturday, December 30, 2017
Russia's Interference In American Election
A big deal has been made about Russia's
supposed interference in America's presidential campaign.
A bit of history.
In 1996, America and other Western
countries poured a lot of money into Boris Yeltsin's re-election
campaign. Yeltsin was very unpopular at the time, as the place was a
complete mess. So how can they logically forbid places like Russia
from interfering in their own campaigns?
The most ironic thing about this is
that for a long time Russia has been identified with Communism; but
here they supported the Republican candidate. At least on social
issues, Russians are much closer to Republicans than they are to
Democrats. Russians are a highly gendered population, and they also
are good at producing real literature and real art. So it would come
as no surprise that they would support a candidate who believes in
traditional roles and who also has an excellent taste in architecture
and has commissioned some of America's most beautiful buildings.
Now of course the Russian government
may have much different reasons for supporting Donald Trump, who
appears to be good friends with Putin. It is correct to say that
other countries should not be meddling in America's elections, but
here we see something very interesting. The kind of people who are
most vocal about this stance are the right-wingers, and the
right-wingers benefited from Russia's interference in America's
elections. Whereas many Democrats are internationalists, and in this
situation they lost out.
Sometimes it works to think things
through before formulating policy. If you want greater engagement
with the rest of the world, then this kind of thing will happen. If
there is a one-world government with everyone having a vote, then it
would be the Muslims and Hindus that command vast power around the
world. And Muslims and Hindus are not known for being feminists.
So we are seeing the logical outcome of
some of the stances that we have seen. And this outcome has hurt
mostly the people who have that stance. At which point it will become
incumbent upon the Democrats to either correct their stance or live
with its consequences. And this consequence is completely logical
according to their own beliefs.
Feminism And Subset-Superset Fallacy
There are many women in feminism who
claim that Donald Trump and any number of others are misogynists.
They are committing what is known in
mathematics as a subset-superset fallacy. Not liking some of a kind
does not mean not liking any of a kind. Most people will like some
women and dislike others. Most people will like some men and dislike
others. I consider it foolishness to expect anything else.
To these people the question that needs
to be asked is, Does the fact that you dislike some men make you a
misandrist? Does the fact that you dislike Donald Trump mean that you
hate men?
I do not need to like Catherine
McKinnon in order to love the women in my family. Similarly you do
not need to like Donald Trump in order to love your father or your
son.
It so happens that I've had extensive
dealings with men who are genuinely misogynistic. The men who think
that women should be slaves, and that they should kill a woman in
case that she leaves them. The men who think that women are an
“incomplete gender” possessing a “penis envy.” The men who
think that women are irrational, or stupid, or evil, or wild. I have
had many things to say to such men.
When these women accuse someone like me
of being a misogynist, they are crying wolf. And crying wolf is an
irresponsible behavior. It makes you and others not credible when a
real wolf appears. You are dealing with someone who has written love
poetry for several women. You are dealing with someone who sacrificed
a very nice setup to be with someone he loved. You are dealing with
someone who has had female bosses and was comfortable with the
arrangement. You are dealing with someone who has incurred danger,
financial loss and damage to reputation as part of an effort to help
women who are being screwed over in court.
So they claim that they want equality.
Equality means treatment based on one's personal qualities. As Martin
Luther King said, “I have a dream that a man will be judged not
based on the color of his skin but based on the contents of his
character.” These women are doing their followers a disservice.
They are teaching them to be bad people. And in a climate of actual
equality, these women do not stand to be treated well.
For as long as men choose to act like
jerks, there will be a need for one or another form of feminism.
However it has to be a wiser feminism than what we have seen in
recent decades. You accomplish absolutely nothing by attacking people
like me. And if you really are the strong women that you claim to be,
then you need to be confronting actual misogynists. And of these
there are plenty.
Friday, December 29, 2017
Fake Liberalism Vs. Actual Strength
When I was in San Francisco, I
sometimes talked to people there about experiences of women in the
American South with domestic violence. Their typical response was
that these women were weak.
To such people: It is no wonder that
you have a reputation for coldness and arrogance.
I ask this. Where would a woman in such
a place get the strength to get away from domestic violence? Everyone
is telling her that she has to put up and shut up. Everyone is
telling her that she is a piece of crap. Everyone is telling her that
if she does not do this she will go to hell, or betray her community,
or uproot her children. So where would a woman get the strength to
fight such a thing?
The San Franciscans aren't known for
being strong. The people I've known there were nowhere close to being
the strongest people I've known. Many of them were the weakest. That
however has not prevented these people from fancying themselves to be
the only strong people in the world.
So sometimes people tell me such things
as that I have something against strong women. No I do not. My
grandmother was a very strong woman. She was a Jewish woman who lived
through the Second World War while living under Stalin. She however
did not have a bad attitude. She acted in a humble and reserved
manner while being genuinely strong.
So we see some women with feminist associations claiming that they are strong and that other women aren't. This is completely wrong. I would like to see such a woman go up in an argument against an older Russian woman. She would show them who is strong and who is not.
So now we are seeing a sizable influx
of Russian women into America, and I applaud it. These women are
actually strong, as well as smart and beautiful. They stand to refute
by counterexample many wrongful claims that we see from American
feminists. And they stand to influence American society for the
better.
They will also bring with themselves
great cultural output. They will bring real poetry, real literature,
circus and ballet. And on these matters as well as some others,
Russians have much to teach Americans.
But probably the most important benefit
from this will be re-affirming the family. A former Reagan
administration official once told me that on this matter the Russians
have much to teach Americans. They don't have much to teach America
about politics or economics. But on these matters they stand to be a
very positive influence.
As for the folks in places such as San
Francisco, they will be confronted with people who are genuinely
strong. This will tear apart their delusion that they are strong and
that nobody else is. And then maybe these people would be likely to
be more compassionate to the kind of women I've talked about earlier.
When that is done, they will have
earned the right to call themselves liberals for real.
Thursday, December 28, 2017
The Errors Of Ray Gordon
A long time ago, there was a poster on
Google Groups who called himself Ray Gordon. His main contention was
that women were stupid and evil and that men should play them. Other
people mainly responded to him by saying that he was a narcissist.
To me, the issue that he was a
narcissist means nothing whatsoever. According to the definition of
the disorder, so are most of the world's greatest contributors. If it
is narcissistic to seek great success or to have original ideas, then
we owe vastly to narcissists. So that argument bears no currency with
me at all.
Instead I seek to address his ideas.
What he was right about was that women are capable of wrongful
behavior. Well of course. Anything capable of choice is capable of
wrong choice. That is the case both with women and with men.
But his solution – that men should
play women – was completely wrong. Playing may work in getting
casual sex, but in long-term relationships it is a complete disaster.
The relationship starts with a lie. What can a lie not handle? Either
the truth or any other competing fallacy. The process of defending a
relationship that starts with a lie involves weaving an
ever-more-ellaborate, ever-more-oppressive, and ever-more-ridiculous
web of deceit. Eventually either the woman or the children learn to
see through the deception. At which point one winds up with either a
hateful wife or rebellious kids.
I am not addressing Ray Gordon's
arguments based on what he is as a person. I am confronting them for
their own intellectual demerit. What he recommends is an absolute
disaster. And I want to warn anyone vulnerable to that kind of
behavior from falling for it.
Playing is a rotten basis for a
relationship and a far more rotten basis for family life. If you want
to have a relationship or to start a family, then you need to do it
with someone whom you respect. And if you do not respect anyone, then
you should stay away from such things altogether.
Once again, the issue of what Ray
Gordon is as a person means absolutely nothing to me. What matters is
the wrongful quality of his ideas. I have been described as a
narcissist myself, but I have much better views on this subject. And
certainly if someone tries to play my daughter, he will hear from me.
So the player attitudes have to go. If
all you want is casual sex, then by all means take Ray Gordon's
advice. But if you want family or a long-term relationship, then see
through this kind of nonsense. Get together with someone whom you can
respect. And then you, your partner and your children will have a
life that is worthy of being had.
Wednesday, December 27, 2017
"Misogyny" And "Misandry"
There have been any number of feminists
accusing me of being a misogynist; and basically they don't know
what they are talking about. I am not motivated in what I do by
hatred of women. I am motivated to a very large extent by love for
the women I love. When I care about a woman I adopt her concerns, and
frequently I put in vast intellectual and emotional effort into
addressing them. And the two main concerns that I hear again and
again are the one about domestic violence and the one about vicious
behavior of women who call themselves feminists.
I am against both. I have every reason
to be against both. It takes absolutely nothing for a man to beat up
on a woman, and the men who do such a thing should be arrested or at
least shamed. But neither is it rightful for some women to claim
leadership over 50% of humanity without 50% of humanity having voted
for them to do so, and use this usurpation of power to advance an
agenda that is destructive both to women and to men.
Now some of these women are of the
belief that a man who takes objection to any aspect of feminism
whatsoever is a misogynist. They are completely wrong. It is not just
men that object to such things; many women – in my experience
successful, intelligent women – do as well. We may as well say that
any woman who dislikes the Taliban or Ted Bundy is a misandrist. The
correct response to the state of affairs is that Andrea Dworkin and
Catherine McKinnon do not speak for women any more than do Eminem or
Michael Murphy speak for me as a man. Most people will like some
people and not others. This is the case both with men and with women.
Disliking some women does not make one a misogynist any more than
does disliking some men make one a misandrist.
So we see the other side claiming that
anyone who agrees with any aspect of feminism is a pussywhipped idiot
or a male feminist. The correct response to both sides is the middle
finger. I agree with some aspects of feminism and not others. So
should most other people. It is not rightful to viciously push on
people a party line. But neither is it rightful to decide that all
women are bad and that men should be beating them down.
On both sides therefore we see a vast
usurpation of power, with people claiming leadership of 50% of
humanity without 50% of humanity having voted for them to do so. And
both are using this usurpation of power to viciously bludgeon
everyone into conformity with whatever party line they have. And it
is about time that more people take my example and say to both sides
that, no, they do not speak for 50% of humanity, and even more
importantly that most of the 50% of humanity are better people than
are they.
This is the case both with men and with
women.
So no, the slanders that I am a
misogynist or anything of the sort stand rejected. I reject a
wrongful usurpation of power. And I hope that more people – both
men and women – have the courage to do what I have done.
Tuesday, December 26, 2017
The Feminist Big Lie
I have dealt with any number of people
who have taken part in Third Wave feminism; and what I found was that
not only are their perceptions wrong, but they are precisely wrong.
They are the precise opposite of what actually is the case. A man
loves women, call him a misogynist. Someone loving and altruistic,
call him a narcissist. Someone compassionate and heroic, call her a
sociopath. Repeat a lie enough times, and people will believe it.
Unlike these feminists, I have actually
done things for women who actually needed it. That makes me a better
feminist than them. Whereas I have not seen them do much more besides
attacking young men nearest the liberal centers of learning and
culture who are the least misogynistic men out there, while having
neither the guts nor the power to confront real wrongdoers.
So to the women who claim that I am a
misogynist or anything of the sort: I refuse to be your whipping boy.
If your hearts are as strong as your tongues, you would be fighting
real misogynists such as Islamists, Westboro Baptists and the
Father's Lobby. These people will not care if you call them
misogynists. They have many justifications for their genuinely
misogynistic stance. These men would think nothing of killing women
like you. And right now they are growing in power.
The women who attack people such as
myself are behaving in a completely irresponsible manner. They are
alienating a crucial ally and making enemies of people who otherwise
would support the women's cause. Then they stand to be confronted
with real misogynists, and people such as myself will refuse to help
them. This will hurt their cause bigtime.
They are also being irresponsible
because they are crying wolf; and people who cry wolf do not become
credible when a real wolf appears. And of these there are plenty.
So we see opportunists seeing these
women's disgusting behavior and saying, “See, we told you, women
are evil, we should beat them.” This does not hurt the feminists.
This hurts women who are much better people than either the feminists
or these opportunists.
To both sides I say this once again. I
refuse to be your whipping boy. If you are a feminist, go fight real
misogynists. If you are a Father's Lobby type, go fight real
feminists. I will not be your monkey in the middle. Go after one
another and leave people like me alone.
Being Played For Fools
I have seen a number of situations in
which a player or a salesman would play a woman and trick her into
thinking himself a good person when he was not. He would show his
true colors later, at a huge expense to the woman. Then he would
apply the same skills that he used in order to play a woman to play
everyone else and get them thinking that he was the good guy and that
she was the villain.
The person who knows how to play a
woman will also know how to play everyone else. He would go around
getting sympathy, getting people to think that he was the good guy
and that the woman was the bad guy. He would be playing the courts,
the social services, the people around him, you name it. And many of
these would be played for fools and believe his lies.
The mistake that many people make is
mistaking “nice” for “good.” In fact the two are completely
different things. Nice is a social front; goodness is righteousness
of heart. I have heard an American woman say that sometimes nice
people are worse than mean ones. Many people who are into “nice”
tend to be absolute sharks. They wear a nice front while doing
everything in their power to advance on bruised backs.
Whereas the person who is actually good
is likely to be sincere. And sincere people get attacked.
What we see in these situations and
many others is a Big Lie. The conman gets people to think that he is
a good guy when he is a bad guy. Whereas the person who is sincere is
regarded as a villain or a psycho or worse. The result, on the social
level, is everyone living a lie. And that is very bad for society.
So it is time that this behavior be
seen for what it is and be exposed for what it is. We are seeing
conmen get the authority in society and genuine people be demonized.
And that creates a perverse set of incentives to reward dishonesty
and punish honesty. Once again, the world does not benefit from this
one bit.
I have seen this happen in many
situations. And my response is that it's time that more people see
through this behavior. They are being played for fools; the rest of
the world is being played for fools. And that creates a worse world
for everyone.
Monday, December 25, 2017
"Nerds" and "Jocks"
When I was in school, the attitude that
many people had was that academic learning was worthless and that the
only thing that mattered in life was common sense and social skills.
You may want that attitude if you are raising salesmen and lawyers.
But the country needs many people besides just that. You also need
engineers, programmers, doctors, scientists, teachers and many
others. And for these people, they better have academic knowledge.
Having that attitude is one of the most
irresponsible things that one can have. You are attacking your best
minds and making enemies of people who otherwise would be your
greatest contributors. And that hurts mostly your country.
So we have idiots riding around with
signs that say “My son beat up your honor student.” Once again,
these people are hurting mostly themselves. They make enemies of
people who otherwise would be their greatest contributors. And that
hurts mostly their country.
For this state of affairs they blame –
liberals, Jews, Communists, you name it. They should be blaming
themselves. They destroy their best minds, and that renders them
non-competitive.
So then these people go into the
academia. They are rightfully full of hatred. They buy into bullshit
such as political correctness and Third Wave feminism. This does not
serve the country at all. This serves its enemies.
In school settings, the “jocks” are
seen as exciting and the “nerds” are seen as bores. In the adult
life that changes. The “jocks” settle into a predictable
existence. The “nerds” keep learning, and they become more
interesting people over the long run. At this point the “jocks”
decide that the “nerd” types are evil. They are not. They are
simply people who've bothered to educate themselves about many
things, and they become more interesting over the long run than the
people who have been “jocks.”
Now not everyone who is a “nerd” is
a good person, and not everyone who is a “jock” is a bad one.
However for as long as people insist on destroying their best minds,
they are going to lose. The correct solution to all this mess is to
support and encourage academic learning. And then the people who tend
to such things will become your country's contributors, and the
influence of people who have a grudge against your country will be
reduced.
Sunday, December 24, 2017
Father Vs. Teacher
Much has been said about any number of
conflicts that can take place at the family level; but there is one
such conflict that I have not seen addressed. That is the conflict
between the father and the teacher.
The father wants the child to be what
he regards to be normal. But the teacher sees in the child an
extraordinary ability and wants to encourage the child toward
greatness. The father sees the teacher as being a threat to his
authority over the child. He denigrates the child's accomplishments
and says various ugly things. Other
kids pitch in by saying such things as that academic knowledge is
worthless and that all that matters in life is social skills and
common sense, which they say he does not have.
The child takes the worst from all
sides. He becomes both arrogant and tortured. He starts acting like a
complete psycho. The father blames the teacher; the teacher blames
the father. And when the child becomes an adult others blame him and
call him such things as a narcissist or a sociopath, neither of which
he is.
At the larger level, we see the same
conflict play out between business world and the academia. We see
many people complain that the academics are teaching things that are
useless or wrong. They want to defund the academia and replace it
with institutions that have their values. On some issues they are
right. I see no reason at all why the taxpayer would want to support
the institutions of political correctness and Third Wave feminism.
However there is and always will be the need for science and
education, and for the academia to exist and be adequately funded is
crucial for the country.
What is the right way to solve these
kinds of problems? Maybe it is for everyone to know the righful
parameters of their role and to wield their power rightfully. The
father does have the authority over the child, but he has to wield it
rightfully. He cannot be dictating to the child how the child can
live, nor can he be mistreating the child. As for the teacher, he has
to recognize as well that he is not the child's father and to honor
the legitimate parameters of the father's role.
I have a stepson, and I never attempted to replace his father as a
father. I spent a lot of time with him, but I saw my role as mainly
educational rather than parental. I taught him quite a lot, but I
never took on the authoritative role in his life. I left such things
to his mother and his father.
I am writing this mainly because I have
not seen writing about these kinds of conflicts. Maybe attention
should be paid to such a thing. Probably the only place where I have
seen this addressed is the film Shine about an Australian pianist who
was in this kind of a situation. And I think that more needs to be
said about this, as it is obviously a source of problems for many
people.
Friday, December 22, 2017
Non-Violence And Peace Through Strength
Non-violence is a beautiful concept.
However actually putting it into place would take draconian measures.
The reason is that a population that is non-violent leaves itself
prey to occupation by populations that are violent. To actually make
non-violence work, no population could be allowed to be violent. That
would take a tyrannical world government; and most people would not
be open to such a thing.
The same thing takes place inside the
countries. Both Netherlands and Switzerland have a low violent crime
rate. In Netherlands nobody is allowed to have a gun, and in
Switzerland everyone is required to have a gun. The first country
makes it impossible for most people to commit violent crime, and the
second country lets people defend themselves. Whereas in America
violent crime is through the roof. That is because in America some
people have guns and others do not. And the people who do not have
guns leave themselves open to brutality by people who do.
I do not believe that it will ever be
possible to keep American people from having guns. Nor is it even
desirable. In some situations people need to have guns. If you live
in the country and the nearest police station is three hours away,
you better have a gun. If you live in the inner city and the police
don't know what they are doing, you better have a gun as well.
We see the same thing with
non-violence. Once again, the people who are non-violent leave
themselves open to occupation by people who are violent. And that
does not create peace. It allows the bad guys to run everything while
the people of conscience are being enslaved.
For this reason I endorse Reagan's doctrine of peace through strength, and I hope that the current administration continues that doctrine
Better Relationships: Soft Power And Hard Power
My view on gender relations is simple. I want men to be good to women, and I want women to be good to men. Toward this I recommend using a combination of soft power and hard power.
Soft power is that of persuasion. There should be more movies, art and literature celebrating such things as family, marriage and love. There should be thought refuting the wrong things that we see put forth by both sides in the gender conflict. I have contributed toward both.
The hard power in this situation is that of using basic supply and demand. Reward men who are willing to be good to women and women who are willing to be good to men with good relationships, and make non-competitive the men and the women who want to be ugly to the other gender. Toward that effect I recommend a large cross-cultural flux for intermarriage, bringing together men – such as many in USA and UK – who are willing to be good to women with women – such as many in Russia, Iran, India and Brazil – who are willing to be good to men.
The biggest problem with most idealistic schemes is that they either have no enforcement mechanism or have a draconian enforcement mechanism. This is not draconian at all. Nobody has to be killed. There is not even a need for expenditure of taxpayer money.
In recent decades, Third Wave feminists have been using taxpayer money to tear families apart, put innocent men behind bars and teach women to be horrible people. They have also committed a vast and illegitimate power grab, claiming falsely to speak for 50% of humanity without 50% of humanity having voted for them to do so. A large-scale influx of women from places such as Russia and Iran will teach them and others that attitude is not the same thing as strength, nastiness is not the same thing as intelligence, and there is nothing at all incompatible between being physically attractive and being smart, being strong or being a good person.
The men who take part in this stand to realize an array of benefits. They will be disempowering usurpers of power. They will be giving someone good a chance at a better life. They will be improving their country by bringing into it someone good. And they will have a much better life than they stand to have with a Third Wave feminist.
So now America has a president who is married to a beautiful and intelligent woman from Slovenia. I think that this is great. This is good for American culture; this is good for American society; this is good for American womanhood; and this is good for American character. And I hope that more men who know what is good for themselves and their country make a similar choice.
Stalking And Domestic Violence
I may offend any number of people here
by writing about this; but I believe that this is something that
needs to be said and needed to be said for a long time.
For a long time, we have seen huge
amount of attention paid to the issue of stalking. Much less
attention has been paid to domestic violence. In fact domestic
violence is a much bigger issue than stalking, and one that is far
more harmful and to far more people.
Being stalked is flattering to the
woman's ego. Someone is risking going to jail because he finds her
attractive. Whereas there is nothing at all flattering about domestic
violence. It is disempowering, it is humiliating and it is degrading.
A woman who is being stalked gets to
feel like a winner. A woman who is being battered gets to feel like a
loser. The world mirrors that back. If a woman is being battered, she
is blamed for it and abused even more. If a woman is being stalked,
she is the damsel in distress and the man who is doing it is an
inhuman monster.
What we see here therefore is hideous
hypocrisy. And in addition to hypocrisy we also see extreme cruelty.
If you are borderline, you are disqualified from having
relationships. If you are sociopath or narcissist, you are evil and
can only be evil whatever you do, however hard you work and whatever
work you do on yourself. The cruelty – as well as irrationality –
of this is beyond what is ascribed to any narcissist or any
sociopath.
We see the same people go on and on
about how many people get traumatized through wrongful sexual
practices. Oh yeah, and sex abuse victims own traumatization. Nobody
else gets traumatized at all. In fact, with people who are genuinely
traumatized, these people see them as psychos or damaged goods or
bringing it about through low self-esteem or negativity in their
consciousness.
The woman who gets flattering attention
gets to pose as a damsel in distress; the woman who gets abusive
attention is seen as a loser.
Well, you are a father, do you want
your daughter getting stalked? Not particularly; but I would be upset
a lot more if she wound up with a wife-beater. Getting away from a
stalker is as easy as filing a restraining order. Whereas it is much
harder – and in many cases impossible – to get away from a
violent partner.
So we are seeing a lesser issue getting
tons of attention, and a much greater issue getting much less
attention.
Mark Twain said that there was never a
truth that was not denied nor a lie that was not heartily believed
in. His words remain true over a century after his death.
Wednesday, December 20, 2017
Righteousness And Forgiveness
There are many
people who claim to have the virtue of righteousness; but many of
them do not have the virtue of compassion and forgiveness.
I have known people
who tortured their children because of what they did when they were
3. I have known people who claimed that anyone who broke a rule –
official or unofficial, right or wrong – was a sociopath or a
narcissist and could never be good. These people are in greater
violation of righteousness than anyone that they attack. They have no
compassion and they have no forgiveness. What they have is not
righteousness. It is cruelty and meanness.
And this is a much
greater sin than anything of which they accuse anyone else.
It is time that more
people confront such bullying behavior and remind such people to
remove the beam from their eye before removing a splinter from their
brothers. And I hope that people who stand to be on the receiving end
of such behavior have the courage to do just that.
In Praise Of Swedes
Living as I do in a major tourist destination, I have interacted with a number of people from Sweden. I was impressed with what I have seen. They are smart, hard-working and in excellent physical shape. And unlike any number of other people who have the same traits, they behave in a friendly and humble manner.
There is more to like about Sweden besides its young people. Sweden gave the world Abba and Europe. Sweden gave the world Volvo and Saab. Sweden has been highly influential around the world as a center of women's rights. And, unlike the American feminists, they have achieved that without teaching women to be horrible people.
For a country of 8 million people, that is impressive. Per unit of population, the only people who compare to the Swedes in their contributions of the civilization are the Jews and the Irish.
So I am writing this to express my respect for the Swedish people. They have a lot to be proud of, and I hope that more people have respect for them as well.
There is more to like about Sweden besides its young people. Sweden gave the world Abba and Europe. Sweden gave the world Volvo and Saab. Sweden has been highly influential around the world as a center of women's rights. And, unlike the American feminists, they have achieved that without teaching women to be horrible people.
For a country of 8 million people, that is impressive. Per unit of population, the only people who compare to the Swedes in their contributions of the civilization are the Jews and the Irish.
So I am writing this to express my respect for the Swedish people. They have a lot to be proud of, and I hope that more people have respect for them as well.
Monday, December 18, 2017
On Tolerance
Different people
have different ideas as to the meaning – and virtue – of
tolerance. I will make distinctions as to what I believe should be
tolerated and what shouldn’t.
With people – including people who are in no way like yourself – yes. As I learned when I was in Amway, you never know who will have something valuable to offer. The Bible talks about the stone the builders rejected becoming a chief cornerstone. The people who make original contributions are people who differ from others in how they think, which means that many people will see them as freaks or worse. And yet it is these people who contribute the most.
With lies and
errors, no. Wrong beliefs lead to wrong actions. I do not recommend
censoring wrong beliefs, but they can and should be vigorously
refuted.
With cultures, it is
more complex. Most cultures have some things right with them and some
things wrong with them. I see no reason at all to respect a culture
that thinks it rightful to throw sulfuric acid into the face of a
child for going to school. However neither do we benefit from a rigid
monoculture. Black people, Jews, Chinese, Hindus and any number of
others make vast contributions to the Western civilization, and they
do so to a greater extent than if they had simply assimilated.
So people –
including the “freaks” - should be tolerated; wrongful beliefs
should not be tolerated; and cultures should be supported where they
are doing the right thing and confronted where they are doing the
wrong thing.
And it is important
to make this distinction, as there is a vast difference among the
three.
Send Gangsters To Africa
Many people have
tried different things to fix the inner city. I have given a lot of
thought to the subject myself. I am now proposing something that I
have not seen proposed by credible sources, and that is as follows:
Send gangsters to
Africa.
Do not overload the
prison system at huge expense to the taxpayer. Do not provoke hatred
by criminalizing people living there since they are kids. Instead
call their bluff. If they do not like America, let them leave
America. If they do not like the white man, let them go to a place
where there are few white people.
Some of these people
say such things as that all white men are racists. They forget that
approximately 500,000 white people died during the Civil War to give
them their freedom. So if they hate America, and if they hate the
white people, let them go to Africa.
It is not possible to socialize someone who sees you as an enemy. Many of these people will fight such a socialization to the point of death. If you are a Jew, you will not let Nazis socialize you. If you are Palestinian, you will not let the Israelis socialize you. If you are a Russian romantic, you will not let American third-wave feminists or personality psychologists socialize you. Such people would rather die than let people of that kind dictate to them the meaning of right-and-wrong, mental health or anything of the sort. I do not understand why more people do not understand such things, it should be bloody obvious.
But if they are
surrounded by people whom they do not believe to be their enemies,
then many of them will accept socialization from them.
I speak in this from experience. I was born in the former Soviet Union, and my family moved to America when I was 12. Since early childhood the Communists instilled in me hatred of America. And even when I was no longer a Communist, I had a low view of Americans. This meant that I would not let these people socialize me, and I continued acting like a teenager for a long time. Whereas when I came to Australia, where I had no ill will toward anyone there, I could grow as a person.
Now there are some people who think that the problems of the inner city are due to racial inferiority. That is completely wrong. The African immigrants who come to America tend to do well, and they tend to behave well. The problems we see are with people who are descended from African slaves. The difference between the two populations is choice. One has chosen to come to America, the other hasn’t chosen to come to America. Many in the second population feel like they have no control over their lives. This leads many of them to see themselves as victims and act like assholes.
The solution
therefore is to give them the choice that they believe they have been
denied. Do not put them away for $40,000 a year in taxpayer money.
Give them a one-way ticket to Nairobi. And if they choose to remain
in America, demand that they be patriotic and be good citizens.
Friday, December 15, 2017
H. L. Mencken: Yet Another Idiot
H. L. Mencken stated that love is an
illusion that a woman is different from all other women.
The implication here is that all women
are the same. I ask Mr. Mencken, Are all men the same? Are you the
same as Adolf Hitler?
A frequent claim about romantic types
is that they have no rational intelligence. I can reason well enough,
and I rejoice in taking apart attitudes that are stupid and cruel.
This is the case with Third Wave feminism; this is the case with
personality psychology; this is the case with most of what has come
out of Adler and Freud; and this is also the case with Mr. Mencken.
So Mr. Mencken thought that all women
were the same. This is completely wrong. There are ways to go between
Brittney Spears and Phyllis Schaffly. Women are not all the same.
There are good ones and bad ones, and most are good in some ways but
not in others. The same is the case with men.
On the other side I have found the
attitude that feminism seeks to celebrate the goodness of all women.
Do feminists celebrate the goodness of all men? Most of them do not
have much good to say about any number of women, especially women who
are kinder and prettier than themselves. And many of them are driven
by hatred, both of men and of kinder and prettier women.
Now I can see why a woman may be angry
if she has a brilliant mind, but all that people care about is the
size of her breasts. However a woman also has the right to be angry
if she is kind and intelligent, and other women attack her because
she is also pretty. The women in my family are all of the above, and
I will not stand to see them attacked by either side.
And no, I do not lust after any of
them.
On both sides we see both cruelty and
stupidity. And that is a deadly combination. Any number of them have
deluded themselves into thinking that they are the only intelligent
people out there. They are not. In fact many of them have proven to
be more stupid than the regular people whom they despise.
When you add cruelty to stupidity, you
get something hideous. You get things such as Nazism. And it then
becomes incumbent on everyone else to vigorously confront and
overcome such things.
When Mencken died, he was described as
a sage. No, he was not a sage. He was yet another idiot. So was
Freud; so was Adler; so were Andrea Dworkin and Catherine McKinnon;
so were any number of others. He was articulate enough, as were these
others. However all of them were wrong. And their errors and their
fallacies have made the world worse for everyone.
Women are not all the same; men are not
all the same. We will always see the good and the bad in both. And it
is time that more people confront such poisonous beliefs and practice
attitudes that are truthful and not ones that are transparently and
obviously false.
Attractive Women, Wealthy Men And Morality
Many people appear to be of the
impression that highly attractive women and wealthy men are
unethical, even that they are narcissistic or sociopathic. I have a
much better explanation for what they see. A highly attractive woman
or a wealthy man would be experiencing a lot of temptation, and it
will take more self-restraint on their part to keep a straight line
than would for someone who does not experience the same level of
temptation. Bill Clinton or Donald Trump will have more women after
them than a taxi driver or a manual laborer. Marilyn Monroe or
Brittney Spears will have more men after them than Andrea Dworkin.
Which means that they will have to have a will of steel to stay true
to their marital vows, and it will take more moral character on their
part to remain ethical than it would for an average person.
A related problem that I have seen is
that such people provoke their partners' insecurities. The partner
would rightfully recognize that they are attractive to other people;
and he is likely to respond to that with violence, abuse or
oppressive and paranoid behavior. This will create even more of a
temptation to stray, which then will feed more abuse. This will
create a complete hell for the person. And any number of people in
such situations will not survive that hell.
Furthermore, such people will evoke
jealousy in people of their own gender; and that will lead many
people of their own gender to treat them terribly. Sometimes the
poison that such people generate would be lethal, and in most cases
it would be highly destructive to the person.
I once heard someone say that Marilyn
Monroe was her own worst enemy. Most likely what they have seen is
that she internalized the attitudes of the people who hated her. Such
a thing would lead to self-destructive conduct. I have had a hell of
a time getting out of my head the attitude of the people who hated
me. Imagine how much harder it would be for a young woman who, unlike
me, is always being scrutinized by the public and who, unlike me,
does not specialize in deconstructing lies.
So no, many of these people are not –
narcissistic, sociopathic, or immoral. Once again, they experience
higher levels of both temptation and jealousy; and both take their
toll. Many of the people who criticize such people do not experience
what they experience, and they find it easier to act ethically than
do they. And I am especially tired of these people attacking women
who are attractive both physically and personally when they, if they
were either, would behave worse.
Thursday, December 14, 2017
What Russia Has To Offer America
As somebody who spent my childhood
during the Cold War, I am delighted that the president of America and
the president of Russia are friends. I have very good reasons to
think that this serves for the betterment of both countries. I write
this about what Russians have to offer America.
Now the Russians do not have much to
teach Americans about politics and economics; but there are many
other issues on which they can influence America rightfully.
Probably the most important one is
family. A former Reagan administration official once told me that
Russians have much to teach Americans about family. In Russia,
marriages tend to stay together even if they are troubled. Whereas in
America many men skip out on their families and many women divorce
for trivial or capricious reasons. These same women howl abuse about the tiniest things
that happen to them while supporting vicious abuses by Muslim or
inner-city men as well as abuses against women nicer and prettier than
themselves. Russian women stand to put things into perspective, both for these women and for many others.
Another thing that Russians stand to do
is confront the monstrosity known as political correctness. Political
correctness is one of the most foolish things that have ever been
tried. Not only does it fail to achieve its stated goals of respect
and tolerance, but it makes them impossible. For me to actually
respect or tolerate the next person I have to know their actual
perspective. For me to do that they need to express to me their
honest opinions, however offensive these may be. If they cannot
express their honest opinions because someone may consider them
offensive, then I will never know their actual perspective, which
means that I will not know whether to extend to them tolerance or
respect.
Instead of respect and tolerance,
political correctness has accomplished this: A climate of suffocating
insincerity. And it is this that the Russians are uniquely suited to
address. The Russian people are rude; they are also genuine and
sincere. They aren't nice, but many of them are good. Their honesty,
their forthrightness and their courage stand to defeat the society of
smilie-faced lies disguising snakepits. And that stands to go a long
way toward improving not only American culture but also American
character.
The Russians also stand to improve
American womanhood. American womanhood has gone to hell as a result
of the Third Wave feminism, and it is the kinder and prettier women
who have suffered for it the most. The Russian women will put things
into perspective, both for the women and for the men. They will show
American men what they have been robbed of. And they will show
American women that attitude is not the same thing as strength,
nastiness is not the same thing as intelligence, and there is nothing
at all incompatible between being physically attractive and being
smart, being strong or having a good heart.
The Russians also stand to improve
American cultural output. American culture likewise has gone to hell
as a result of postmodern and avant-garde movements. Russians stand
to set these people straight. Russian literature is real literature.
Russian poetry is real poetry. Some of Russian songs are amazing. And
Russians excel at such things as circus, theater and ballet. The
Russians therefore stand to improve American culture greatly, and I,
as someone who has translated five books of Russian poetry
(https://sites.google.com/site/ibshambat)
and many Russian songs (
https://sites.google.com/site/ibshambat/russian-songs)
into English, am honored to be a part of this.
Finally, Russians stand to end the
false identification that many American people have between culture
and weakness. Now maybe you may get this expression when you have
been dealing too much with French people or San Franciscans, who are cultured but who
are wusses. But you will not get this impression if you are dealing
with Russian people, who are cultured and are not wusses at all. And
this may improve the reputation of culture in America, resulting in
greater respect for culture. And if that creates a cultural boom such
as what America had in 1920s, then that is probably the best thing
that can happen in America today.
Donald Trump can very much be a help in
this matter. He has commissioned some of America's most beautiful
buildings, and he has a love of beauty. He is the proof that
there is nothing at all contradictory between culture and strength or
culture and money. There are people in culture who have a low view of
business, and there are people in business who have a low view of
culture. Both are wrong. The two can very well co-exist, and in 1920s - the time that saw America become the undisputed leader of the world - they did.
So now we are seeing Russians learning
rightfully from Americans on how to manage business. And I am hoping
to see more Americans learning rightfully from Russians on how to do
family and culture. I hope that this positive symbiosis continues.
And I hope that both Russia and America continue to benefit as a
result.
Evil Beliefs In Psychology
I am writing this to address a number
of very wrongful but very widespread beliefs that I have encountered
among people with psychological or spiritual associations.
One is that self-esteem makes good
people. That is completely wrong. Rewarding self-esteem does not make
people better; it makes them worse. A person with higher standards
for themselves will find it harder to feel good about themselves than
a person with lower standards for themselves. Rewarding self-esteem
does not reward personal good. It rewards low standards. And that
does not improve people; it makes them worse. I have told a friend of
mine in California that I knew in Virginia “good people who thought
that they were shit and dipshits who thought that they were the
shit.” His response: “”Pretty shitty situation.” I see every
reason to think that this is what happens when the culture rewards
self-esteem and not good character.
Another is the Buddhist “law of
attraction” - that the like attracts like. Once again, completely
wrong. Different people attract different things and for different
reasons. I have attracted a number of women who were beautiful both
inside and out while not being either myself. I have also attracted a
number of persecuting fascists of both genders when I myself do not
want to harm anyone. The same person could attract wonderful people
and terrible people in less than a month of one another. So clearly
the Buddhist law of attraction is wrong.
Another claim I have heard is that you
need to love yourself before you can love another. Totally wrong as
well. In many cases it works the other way around. You do not love
another for traits that you have; you love them for traits you find
lovable, whether or not you yourself have these traits. Seeing these
traits in another person, you know what you need to strive for in
order to be lovable yourself in your own eyes. Then you, by working
on yourself in that direction, acquire these same traits. Then you
love yourself.
Further along the same line is the idea
that if you are loving you cannot be angry, or if you are angry you
cannot be loving. I cannot begin to tell you how wrong that is. If
you love Amazonian rainforest, then you rightfully will be angry at
people who cut it down. If you love a woman, then you rightfully will
be angry at some idiot doctor who kills her through medical
malpractice. To expect anything else is not enlightenment, it is
foolishness.
I once knew a person who gave me just
that line. Then he got a job through me; he borrowed a Jeep on a loan
from the boss; and then he skipped down the road while missing the
payments on the Jeep. When I talked to him about it, he said that the
problem was his self-hatred. No, it was not. The problem was that he
was a crook.
So there were women in 1960s and 1970s
who bought just into that same line. They got together with men who
used them and abused them. They had many rightful reasons to be angry
at these men, but their ideology of universal love forbade it. So
then they decided that love is bullshit and formed the vicious strand
of feminism that has been plaguing the Western world and especially
America since 1990s. My response to those women is that right and
wrong do not depend on your mood. Sometimes you need to be kind and
nurturing to people. Sometimes you need to confront people. No woman
should have to tolerate a man throwing sulfuric acid into the face of
her child. But neither should anyone, man or woman, buy into fascist
ideologies that say that Jews, or “sociopaths,” or “narcissists,”
or men, are constitutionally evil and are incapable of rightful
behavior.
So we have seen these women attacking
men such as myself, seeing in me the reflection of men who abused
them. I however do not deserve these attacks. I want men and women to
get along. I want men and women to be good to one another. The gender
war on both sides teaches precisely the opposite. It teaches both men
and women to be horrible to one another. They take it out on
precisely the wrong people. The feminists take it out on men nearest
the liberal centers of learning and culture who are the least likely
to be actually misogynistic, and the men take it out on women in
right-wing or Muslim or inner-city communities who are the least
likely to be vicious to men. This creates a destructive set of
incentives within society. It teaches everyone involved – both men
and women – that it pays to be a jerk and that good behavior and
good attitude will get you mistreated. And that makes the world worse
for everyone, both men and women.
Of course in such a climate very few
people would think or dare to attempt love; and those who do will be
laboring under a heavy disadvantage. The loving relationships that do
form will be attacked from all sides, and both the men and the women
who are interested in such things will be in one or another bind.
Most of such relationships, being as they are at such a disadvantage,
will fail. This will then reinforce the false belief that something
is wrong with love. And that will be bad for everyone, both men and
women.
So we see some people with such
convictions accusing me of being such things as a predator or a
misogynist. No, they are predators. They destroy good things that
happen between men and women and then make tons of money as either
divorce lawyers or psychiatrists. These people prosper from making
the world worse. And that means that they, and not people such as
myself, are the predators. As for misogyny, a misogynist will not be
writing love poetry, or moving across the ocean to be with a woman in
another country when he has a nice setup at home, or continuing to
love a woman with whom he had been for only a short time 22 years
previously. What we see here is not only beliefs that are wrong. What
we see here is beliefs that are precisely wrong. What we see here is
a Big Lie. And it is time that more people say that the king has no
clothes.
Now I anticipate that I will ruffle
many feathers by saying things of this nature, and I hope to do so.
What we are seeing here is false and evil beliefs that make the world
worse. And I believe that I owe this to a number of people whom I
have known to confront such wrongful attitudes and help others to
have lives free of such poison.
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
Prayer and Work
Augustine said, “Pray as if
everything depended on God, work as if everything depended on you.”
I have seen miracles worked by people
within Christianity. I have also seen miracles worked by people
outside of Christianity. Right now I do not know which one of these
is right. So my solution is to have my feet in both worlds and
practice Christian teachings while also doing what I can on my part
to strive for better things for people.
Some people I know who were not
Christian practiced Christian values to a greater extent than many
people who were Christian. They practiced compassion, generosity and
strong ethics, which many people who call themselves Christian do
not. In some ways the Jews and the Christians traded places since the
times of Jesus, with many Jews acting the way that Christians are
meant to act and many Christians following the Old Testament without
loving their neighbor. I have also seen strong ethics in many people
outside Christianity. So that while I remain committed to following
Christian teachings, I am also choosing to take the loving stance
toward people who are not Christians.
Some Christians do in fact act the way
that Christians are meant to act. I have been involved with a
Salvation Army church, and these people do exactly what Christians
are meant to do. They have had very real experiences, and they have
dedicated their lives toward doing such things as helping people get
off of drugs and become productive and healthy people. The
experiences of William Booth, Bill Wilson and any number of others cannot be
dismissed. They experienced a real intervention from God, and they
have done many things that Christianity demands. When people follow
some parts of the Christian teachings without following others, often
God intervenes to set them straight. The Victorians practiced
morality but not compassion, so God revealed Himself to Booth. The
result was the Salvation Army. The people in 1930s were contemptuous
of drinking, so God revealed Himself to Bill Wilson. The result was
Alcoholics Anonymous.
My solution therefore is to follow
Jesus while being respectful of any number of people who do not. In
the best-case scenario I stand to guide them toward Jesus. In case of
people I've loved who are deceased and for whom I cannot do such a
thing, my solution is to see what they would have wanted to see done
and do it. So if someone who is deceased wanted me to be a better
person or to do good things, I am willing to do both.
I have had many spiritual experiences,
and while I do not yet know if only the Christians are right I know
for a fact that skeptics and atheists aren't. I do know however that
I need to do what Augustine said. Pray as if everything depended on
God, work as if everything depended on me. And I recommend this
approach to other people.
Tuesday, December 12, 2017
Taoism, Romanticism And Societal Rules
In both Taoism and Romanticism, two
philosophies that I have held dear to heart for a long time, society
is being regarded as Satan, and it is thought that if rid of its influence on their minds people will be good. This is not necessarily the case. We see
conflict even among animals; and I see no reason why people outside
Western or Confucian society would be better than people in these
societies. In fact in many cases – even among indigenous
populations such as the Maoris who did not have a civilization – we
see very wrong things.
The real question that needs to be
asked is, Which societies are good or bad and for what reason? Some
think that Christianity is bad; but Christianity replaced the Roman
Empire, which had a lot of advanced knowledge. Clearly there is
something here that is not evil and is in fact very good. Christ
offers hope, life and meaning to many disempowered people, which is
the same goal as is proposed by people in Romanticism.
Now I have seen Ken Wilbur and a number
of others deride Romantics as spoiled children for militating against
Rationalism, which he said had many of the same goals as Romanticism;
but by that standard so are the Rationalists for rejecting
Christianity, which like them has a goal of attaining at truth. In
fact Christianity achieves many of the same goals as Romanticism.
Love, fairness, compassion, being good to other people – all these
are Christian teachings. So is the preference of divine power over
secular power. The Christians and Romantics clash over sexuality and
social morals; but their most important goals are similar to one
another.
Hippies and “rednecks” had a
similar idea – move away from the civilization into the country in
order to live free lives. One set were Romantic, the other set were
Christian. The “rednecks” worked out a generally more successful
arrangement than did the hippies. They did a better job of providing
for, defending and governing themselves. Eventually most of the
hippies moved back to the civilization where they applied their
creativity and intelligence toward creating the computer industry and
a Wall Street boom, while “rednecks” remained in the country and
used the knowledge that they got from the hippies to rise to major
political power.
By the Romantic standard of freedom,
“rednecks” are better than the “bourgeois.” By the Romantic
standard of non-violence, culture and treatment of women, they are
far behind the “bourgeois.” If society was the root of all evil,
then the opposite would be the case. We will see good and bad
behaviors everywhere. It is entirely not the case, as some believe,
that society is “reality” or “the real world” and the
Atlantic Ocean isn't. But neither is it the root of all evil.
I was attracted to some of these ideas
myself and gave voice to them. I learned from experience. I did not
disown the correct aspectes of Romanticism – support of loving
relationships, respect for culture and the arts, better treatment of
the less fortunate and respect for nature in all its intricacy and
complexity. I do however disown things in any tradition that prove to
be wrong, and this is one such problem. We see evil among the Maoris
as much as we see evil among the English. And at this point in
history it is the English-speaking countries that lead the world in
human rights.
With Taoism, the claim that has turned
me off of the ideology is that by conceptualizing beauty one also
creates ugliness. That is completely wrong. Both beauty and ugliness
existed long before I existed, it will continue existing long after
I'm gone. With Buddhism we see such ideas as the law of attraction –
that the like attracts like. This is also demonstrably wrong. People
attract different things for different reasons, and much of what they
attract – for good or for ill - is very little like themselves. I
have myself attracted widely different people and for widely
different reasons while remaining the same me throughout. And the New
Age idea that people create their reality with their consciousness is
completely wrong. They did not create the Sun with their
consciousness. This attitude is not only wrong factually; it is also wrong morally. By this logic the 500,000 American soldiers who died in the Second World War caused it through "victim consciousness" or "negativity in their consciousness," and that is a damnable thing to believe.
Society is neither the god that
fascists claim it to be nor the Satan that Romantics and Taoists
claim it to be. It is an arrangement. And what I want to advise to
those who speak in favor of society's rules is to make these rules
official. Pass them into law. Subject them to visibility,
accountability, check and balance. Unofficial rules create a hidden
tyranny. We have rules that are not even honest enough to be made
official. This is a way to sneak in hidden tyranny into nations that
are intended to be free. Societies will always have rules; but for
these rules to be valid within a context of democracy they have to be
passed into law. They have to be made visible and official. Then
people who seek to enforce them will have a constitutionally valid
basis for doing so, and the people who object to them can work in a
visible context to try to repeal them.
I am of an age where I see a need for
structure. However it has to be a legitimate structure. For an
authority in a democracy to be made legitimate, it has to be made
official. It has to be made subject to visibility, accountability,
check and balance. Anything else is an attempt to sneak in hidden
tyranny into countries that are intended to be free.
So the correct solution is neither to
deify society as “sanity” or “reality” or “the real world”
nor to practice ill will toward the civilization. Societal rules have
to be passed into law. Subject societies to the same standard of
accountability and visibility to which you subject the government.
And then avoid tyranny both official and unofficial, while achieving
the correct goals that Romanticism, Rationalism and Christianity have
in common.
Monday, December 11, 2017
True Cure For "Perverts" And "Sociopaths"
For a long time we have been hearing
that some people – such as sociopaths and “perverts” - are
incurably evil. This is a completely wrong thing to believe.
There may not be a cure for sexual
perversions, but there is a cure for acting on sexual perversions. It
is called self-control. There may not be a cure for sociopaths, but
there is a cure for acting on sociopathic tendencies. It is called
having a moral compass. The people who claim that these people are
evil and can only be evil reduces people to being animals. The
correct solution is not to listen to such people, but to exercise the
human capacity for moral choice.
If someone is acting in a selfish or
unethical way, it does not necessarily mean that he is a sociopath.
Some of such people are simply lost. They do not have a moral
compass. The moral compass is provided by accepting the Ten
Commandments and the teachings of Jesus Christ.
Doing this restores people again to the
status of being people. Whereas we see many in psychology doing the
opposite. Once again, they have decided that some people are bad and
can only be bad whatever they do. This is irrational, this is cruel
and this is wrong.
Into this fascist nightmare comes in
the wisdom of God. He restores people to humanity and teaches them
the rightful way to conduct themselves. At this point even the people
with the worst natures learn to act rightfully and use their moral
choice to overpower whatever is wrong with their natures.
Character, in my experience, makes one
attractive to many more people. And rightfully so. A person with
character will be much more likely to behave rightfully than a person
without character. The solution is to build character; and, in my
experience, the way to do so is to invite into one's life the being
that had the best character of anyone known in history, who, even
though He could do anything that He wanted, decided to sacrifice
Himself on the cross.
Very little of merit on this matter can
be learned from the man-haters. Very little of merit on this matter
can be learned from predatory psychologists. But everything stands to
be learned on this matter from beings that actually know what
character is. If you have those kinds of propensities it does not
mean that you are damned for life. It means that you need to figure
out ethics and apply it. And that is something of which anyone,
including the sociopaths, are capable.
This matter has been approached in a
completely wrong way. It ignores the central reality of human
existence – deliberate choice based on principle. We are not
animals. If we have wrong propensities, it does not mean that we will
always act on them. We can stop ourselves when we find ourselves
tempted to do wrong things. And it is in encouraging this, and not
self-esteem or anything of the sort, that we stand to become good
people.
So it is time to do away with these
grievous errors. The solution to these problems is moral
self-restraint. The solution is giving people a correct moral
compass. And then they will act rightfully whatever their nature or
their psychology or their brain chemistry happens to be.
Vindicating Love
In America, many women – especially
the feminist kind – disliked me. I came to the conclusion that the
reason for that was conflict of expectations. Both my mother and my
grandmother were superwomen, and I got used to female beauty and
goodness without myself being especially attractive physically or
personally. So many women saw me as a bottom-feeder.
However I did have things to offer the
women that I was with. One was affection and passion. Another was
appreciation. Another was quite good poetry. Another was addressing
their concerns. And of course when I was making good money in the
computer industry I had that to offer as well.
One benefit of this state of affairs is
that bad women avoided me. I did not have what they wanted. The women
I did attract were the artistic and philosophical kind. As such,
these were frequently accused of being crazy or evil. However they
were all beautiful, intelligent and exciting. Some lived in mansions
and some have been homeless; but all were amazing as romantic
partners. And all had experienced completely unfair mistreatment.
They, like me, were the romantic type.
In contemporary society the romantic women become punching bags, and
the romantic men get treated as criminals. We all had a strong
influence from Romantic poetry and literature. We applied the
concepts to things in our lives. It worked when we found one another.
The result, besides beautiful shares, was also good poetry and art on
both sides.
Now romantic attitudes have come under
a lot of criticism. Apparently it is unrealistic, narcissistic or
childish. It is not narcissistic; it is about valuing the other
person rather than about valuing yourself. It is not unrealistic;
people's convictions have a large role in shaping the reality of
their lives, and people who base their actions on such beliefs make
these beliefs a part of social reality. Nor is it childish; I have
known marriages that started with love at first sight and were going
strong when the partners were in their 80s.
Then there is the claim that it is
antisocial. Do not tell that to the World War II generation. They
built a very successful society while in many cases basing their
matches on romantic love. Maybe such things become antisocial in
societies that want to snuff them out; but societies do not have to
be that way.
Another claim is that it is nature's
way to get you to do its bidding. Is that such a bad thing? Is it a
bad thing furthermore that such matches should lead to marriage and
family? Most people will want to have families. Most people will want
to have children. It is much better that this be done within the
context of a relationship where people love one another than within a
relationship in which people do not.
Probably the most ridiculous claim I've
heard on the subject is that it is misogynistic. That claim is a Big
Lie. That claim is precise inversion of truth. A misogynist is
somebody who hates women. A man who writes poetry for women is not a
misogynist; he is the opposite of a misogynist. He is a man who loves
women, or at least the women for whom he writes poetry. To claim
anything to the contrary is absurd.
Then there is the claim that the people
who are attracted to such things are narcissists or sociopaths or
perverts, and that these people can't love. Even ones who can't feel
love – as we are told about sociopaths - can choose to act in a
loving manner. Use your mind for what your heart fails to do. As for “narcissists” and
“perverts,” many of them do very much love. Ayn Rand is regarded
as narcissistic, but she was passionately in love more than once. And
of course many of the people who were involved in 1920s and 1960s
would be now regarded as perverts, but many of them were very loving,
as we see for example in the Great Gadsby, the Beat poetry and Pink
Floyd.
When something is under attack in
society, its manifestations are at a disadvantage. This reinforces
the false claim that there is something wrong with it. Especially
when partners are young, inexperienced and not versed in social
manipulation, their relationships can be easily poisoned or destroyed
by people versed in such things. This leads to situations such as the
one that I had in 1995, when I passionately loved a woman only to
have her stepmother tell her that I was using her. Completely untrue,
but it appears that she believed it. Some say that love is the most
powerful force in the universe, but in fact love is quite fragile.
Its value is its beauty, not its power, and the correct place for
power is to protect the love.
One thing that I have seen in some situations is what I call the Iago behavior. Sometimes a man would genuinely love a woman, only to have his bar buddies or his family stuff his head with paranoid nonsense and convince him that the woman is doing the wrong thing or that the woman is evil. In many case these people would claim that the man owed it to other men or even to God to tramp women down. This would destroy even the most loving relationships and lead them to become abusive. Then of course the feminists would look at this behavior and say that it means that men are evil or that love is a racket. In fact the problem was neither with men nor with love. The problem was with the ugliness that surrounded them and which was more experienced than were they.
One thing that I have seen in some situations is what I call the Iago behavior. Sometimes a man would genuinely love a woman, only to have his bar buddies or his family stuff his head with paranoid nonsense and convince him that the woman is doing the wrong thing or that the woman is evil. In many case these people would claim that the man owed it to other men or even to God to tramp women down. This would destroy even the most loving relationships and lead them to become abusive. Then of course the feminists would look at this behavior and say that it means that men are evil or that love is a racket. In fact the problem was neither with men nor with love. The problem was with the ugliness that surrounded them and which was more experienced than were they.
I want to see romantic love vindicated
and becoming a fertile ground for better family life. This will
create better family situations. As for the people with strong
romantic influence, it will give them a reason to live and to excel,
bringing into the civilization a rightfully disaffected constituency.
I want people growing up now to avoid
situations such as what I had in 1995. To that effect I offer my
arguments on the subject. Use these arguments to defend your
relationships and make your relationships blossom for life.
Alt-Right: WASPs and Jews
It appears that in America there is a
strong new movement that calls itself alt-right. According to them,
black people are lazy and violent, Jews are evil manipulators, and
Muslims are terrorists.
I ask these people: Where would America
be without Michael Jordan, Eddie Murphy and Colin Powell? I ask these
people: Where would America be without Albert Einstein, Mark Spitz, Donald Rumsfeld, Henry Kissinger, Adam Sandler, Steven Spielberg and Ayn Rand? I
ask these people: Where would they as former Tea Party be without the
Koch brothers? All these people contribute a lot to America. And they
contribute much more than they would if they had simply assimilated into the WASP culture,
as some people say that they should.
Every culture has something wrong with
it. That includes the White Anglo Saxon Protestant American. Now
there are many things that are right with that culture, and they have
the right to affirm these virtues. The stress on character, hard
work, strength and ethics is right. The biggest problem with
this culture is emotional repression. Apparently feelings are for the
weak and the stupid, and anyone showing feelings is trampled down.
For people who do such a thing, the greatest nightmare is a
feelings-oriented person with a brain, as many Jews are. They are a
nightmare for two main reasons. One is that they cannot be credibly
portrayed as stupid and thus form a refutation by counterexample of
this falsehood in their worldview. And the other is that they have
the wits to be able to help other feelings-oriented people whom they
want to trample down. So portray them as evil manipulators or
dangerous individuals. Brand them with untreatabled disorders. Or
claim that their whole culture is evil.
Regarding the black people, I am close
to a number of black ladies, and from what I have heard from them I
feel like punching the men who had treated them that way in the face.
However this is not limited to black people, and I feel the same way
about a number of people who are Muslim, Russian, Australian and the
American WASP. That some black people are lazy and violent is
certainly correct. However there are any number of others who are no
such thing. It is correct to go after the guilty; but do not stick
these labels on the innocent. I have seen a number of good efforts
that the black people are doing to improve the behavior of people in
their community, and these efforts deserve respect. Yes there are
stupid hoodlums who are black. But there are also many black people
who are admirable individuals, and they do not deserve to be blamed
for the sins of the hoodlums.
One thing they are right about is that
political correctness is wrong. Yes, it is completely wrong. Not only
does it fail to achieve its stated goals of tolerance and respect,
but it makes them impossible. For me to actually tolerate or respect
you I must understand your perspective. For me to do so you must be
able to express your honest opinion, however offensive it may be. If
you cannot express your honest opinion because someone considers it
offensive, I will never understand your actual perspective, which
means that I will not know whether or not to extend to you actual
tolerance and respect.
Maybe the WASP culture has been
criticized too much, and it may be valid that it should remind people
of the positives in it, of which once again there are many. However
do not in the process bring back features that are wrong. Do not
bring back emotional repression. Do not bring back coldness. Do not
bring back meanness and cruelty. If you do that, it will always be
only a matter of time before something like 1960s happens again.
So yes, celebrate the things that you
are right about and that are right in your character. But do not
portray as evil or lazy or violent or whatever people who are none of
these things and many of whom are strongly contributing citizens.
America benefits from many black people and many Jews. And it is
rightful that these people be properly credited for the work that
they are doing for America.
Sunday, December 10, 2017
Errors Of Personality Psychology And New Age
Psychology and New Age thinking both
make the same error, but from the opposite directions. The first
claims that, if someone is a narcissist, a sociopath or a pervert,
then he can never be good whatever he does. The other claims that a
child who's been run over by a car has caused it by negativity in his
consciousness.
The first treats people as animals; the second treats people as gods. The first abdicates responsibility and choice to the point of claiming that people have no control over their actions. And the second saddles people with responsibility for things that are not their responsibility at all.
On this matter, as on others,
Christianity offers a correct solution. Christianity says that we
have choice without saying that we have control over everything.
Christianity says that even a sociopath can choose to act in rightful
ways. And it does so without saying that everything that happens to
people is solely their doing.
This makes it the rational standpoint.
Now there are certainly people who've
fallen into the whining habit who need to be told to be more
responsible and proactive. But there are also people who've fallen
into the persecution habit who need to be reminded that others are
human beings rather than animals. Once again, anything capable of
choice is capable of rightful choice. This, once again, includes
sociopaths, perverts and further along the same line. There may not
be cure for sociopathy or sexual perversions, but there is a cure for
acting on such things. It is called choice. Choice, once again, of
which everyone, including sociopaths, is capable. The correct cure
for people who act like bastards is to provide them a moral compass.
That is the case whether or not they have anything wrong with their
brain.
Some people who do wrong things have
something wrong with their brains; some do not. Some people who do
right things have something wrong with their brains; some do not. Any
number of major contributors in history have been diagnosed with
mental illness. It would be especially present in the narcissistic
diagnosis. If it is narcissistic to have original ideas or to seek
great success, then most of the world's major contributors have been
narcissists. If it is narcissistic or sociopathic to dislike social
authority, then most Americans are descended from narcissists and
sociopaths, who disliked the social authority in their countries
enough to move across the Atlantic. And if it is schizoid or
schizophrenic to have spiritual experiences, then the bulk of the
world owes its moral guidance to schizoids and schizophrenics.
With New Age idea, we see exceptional
cruelty as well as lack of ethics. Now it may very well be, as I have
been told, that the Jews who got killed during the Second World War
had a “victim consciousness”; however the 500,000 American
soldiers who died during that war suffered from no such thing. This
is something that one may believe if one has spent all his life in a
protected environment. But people who've experienced trouble that was
not of their making do not have the luxury of such beliefs. And it is
reprehensible that such people would insult the heroic people such as
the above who have made the ultimate sacrifice so that they can live
in comfort and sneer at them.
Once again, both ideologies make the
same error from the opposite directions. One treats people as
animals; the other treats people as gods. We are neither. We are
human beings. We are beings who can control some things but not
others. It is rightful that people be told to make more responsible
choices without holding them accountable for the phases of the moon.
And it is also rightful that every human being, even if possessing a
sociopath diagnosis, be treated as a human being.